This past weekend when I was hanging out with some girlfriends, I had a brilliant thought. Before I get to that brilliant thought, here is some backstory.
Since I am assistant director for “The Gathering” at ORU this week, I am required to wear the she-quivilent of suit and tie. This is a little bit of a stretch for me, especially since I am a big fan of shorts and t-shirts…but thankfully, Chelsea took me shopping about a month ago. Now, I have a few items of clothing that are outside of my norm. I have shirts that are pink. I have heels.
Shocker, I know.
As I was talking with my girlfriends, they were absolutely floored that I, Joy Bork, was willing to wear pink and heels. The statement that came out of my mouth has caused me to think quite a bit. In response, I said, “I am allowed to change, right?”
This comment came up again at breakfast with my former hall director. It is such a challenge to walk back into a place like ORU, where I spent four years with a group of people, and give them the grace to have changed some due to a few more years of life experience…But yet I expect that from others.
I wonder how much our interpersonal relations would shift if we gave others the grace for change…if we set aside past hurts and put a fresh face forward, giving others the benefit of the doubt. I am by no means skilled at this – I am only beginning this thought process.
Will you join me?