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friendship.

KateandIThis post is dedicated to my friend Katie. From then until now and beyond. May the adventures continue. May grace and monkey moments abound. Here’s to another year, new changes, and who knows what else. Love you! Happiest of Birthdays!


For those of you who are familiar with the Enneagram, this story will be quite enjoyable. It was a normal workday. I was in a calendar meeting in the programming offices. I was in the early stages of developing a friendship with Katie.
Sidenote: When I’m new to friendships, I am constantly gathering information about where I stand. The worst thing for an enneagram 6 is relational uncertainty. With that in mind, let us continue our story.
So here I am, sitting in calendar meeting. I see an email pop up from Katie. All it said was, “Do you consider me a friend?”
Panic. Pure panic began its trek through my veins. This could mean so many things. What did I say? What did I do? What could she be implying? So many possibilities exploded in my mind that I couldn’t move for a good 30 seconds. My friend Hallie was sitting next to me, watching the whole scenario go down.
What to do. What to do.
I hit reply.
What is a neutral answer that can work no matter if she’s somehow mad or not?
So many possibilities.
I typed out, “yes?” and hit send.
She responded a few moments later.
My panic wasn’t necessary. She has recently had a tattoo of the world put on her back and she needed help moisturizing it in the middle of the workday.
In talking about it all later, we laughed pretty hard at this one. Katie is a 9 on the enneagram and goes with the flow. Her calm demeanor and up-front nature mixed with my relational anxiety in that moment caused a perfect storm. Since then, we have weathered highs and lows. And in the midst of it all, I most definitely call her a friend.